ASD social cues

Social Smarts: Guiding Our ASD Kiddos Through the Dance of Friendship

Today, we’re diving into the art of friendship and the subtle ballet of social cues – a dance that can sometimes feel more like a breakdance battle for our ASD kiddos. But fear not! With a sprinkle of humor and a dash of patience, we can guide our little ones through this social tango.

The Basics of Social Cues

Social cues are like the secret language of friendship – a nod here, a smile there, all forming the unspoken rules of interaction. For our ASD stars, these cues might not be so obvious. It’s like everyone got a handbook on socializing, and they’re flipping through blank pages. So, let’s start by breaking down these cues into simple, understandable bits.

The Smile: More Than Just a Pretty Face

A smile is like the welcome mat of social interactions. It says, “Hey, I’m friendly!” Teaching our kids to recognize and respond to smiles can be a great starting point. Practice smiling together in the mirror and talk about how it makes you feel. It’s like building a bridge, one smile at a time.

The Art of Conversation: Turn-Taking and Listening

Conversations are like a game of catch – you throw a ball (a topic), someone catches it (responds), and throws it back (asks a question). For our ASD kiddos, we can practice this game with simple, back-and-forth exchanges. Use their favorite toys or characters to make it fun and relatable.

Body Language: The Silent Storyteller

Our bodies tell stories without saying a word. Teaching our children to read body language can help them understand when someone is happy, sad, or even bored. Use role-play or storytelling to explore different scenarios and what they might mean.

The Friendship Formula: Kindness + Respect = BFFs

At the heart of all friendships is kindness and respect. Encouraging our kids to be kind, to share, and to respect others’ feelings lays the foundation for strong, lasting friendships. It’s like planting seeds of friendship and watching them grow.

Navigating the Social Seas

Remember, mums, every child’s journey through the social seas is unique. Some may sail smoothly, while others might face a few storms. But with love, guidance, and a sense of humor, we can help our ASD kiddos navigate these waters, making friends and memories along the way.


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