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Texting Tumults: Navigating Phone Time with Your Teen ASD Daughter

Hello, lovely mothers of the Aspie Whisperer community! Today, we’re tackling the tricky topic of phone time with your teen ASD daughter. It can be a real challenge when asking her to get off her phone leads to a meltdown. Let’s explore some strategies to navigate this situation with patience and understanding, sprinkled with a dash of humour.

Understanding the Meltdown

When you ask your daughter to get off her phone, it may trigger a meltdown because she’s deeply engrossed in her activity. Changes in routine or interruptions to her preferred activities can be particularly challenging for ASD individuals.

Setting Clear Boundaries

Establish clear rules and boundaries around phone use. Let your daughter know how much time she can spend on her phone and what activities are acceptable. This can help reduce resistance when it’s time to put the phone down.

Transitioning Gracefully

Help your daughter transition from phone time to other activities smoothly. Use visual cues or timers to indicate when phone time will end, and suggest alternative activities she enjoys to make the transition easier.

Creating a Phone Use Schedule

Work together with your daughter to create a schedule that includes designated phone time and other activities. This can help her understand when it’s appropriate to use her phone and when it’s time to engage in other activities.

Exploring Alternative Activities

Encourage your daughter to engage in activities she enjoys that don’t involve her phone. This could be reading a book, doing a craft, or going for a walk. Finding enjoyable activities can make it easier for her to step away from the phone.

Seeking Professional Guidance

If meltdowns persist or are severe, consider seeking advice from a healthcare provider or therapist who specializes in ASD. They can provide additional strategies and support tailored to your daughter’s needs.

Remaining Flexible

While it’s important to set limits on phone use, it’s also important to be flexible. There may be times when your daughter needs extra phone time for schoolwork or to connect with friends. Finding a balance that works for your family is key.

Staying Connected

Stay connected with your daughter and show interest in her phone activities. This can help you better understand her world and find common ground to discuss phone use limits.


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